There's a reason why you love someone for so long

This ch 8 show "Mars vs Venus" is so addictive. And i guess the main reason is because it reflects reality.. Reality as in human nature.. Though I dont really think that its possible to find a guy who will never stray. Apart from that, I think it portrays the susceptibility of human nature to temptations.

Especially the story of Tay Ping Hui and Huang Bi Ren. I think, or rather, I am SURE, every single one of us have friends whose bfs/gfs left their partners for a third party, only to realise that it was a mistake.

Just recently, a friend of mine did the same thing. He has been with his gf for 6 years. From uni days, all the way until he started working. His gf wasnt perfect - she's very pampered and sometimes short tempered - but everyone has flaws and he accepted her for that. Until he met a new colleague at his workplace - a seemingly sweet, demure and submissive girl. Basically, his type of girl. And suddenly, his gf's flaws were unacceptable.. flaws he lived with for 6 yrs, he couldnt live with them anymore. So, he dumped his gf to go after this new girl. The only redemning thing he did was he was honest with his gf - he told her tt another girl came into his life. (Although that must have hurt his gf terribly..)

All the 6 yrs, the gf was always there for him - to encourage him during exams.. worry for his results.. supported him thru his down times during work. However he bought his gf nothing - not even a key chain. But for this new girl, he bought her a coach bag even tho he knew her for less than half a yr. If you think he deserves a beating, i agree too. And I slapped him (on his arm la)

Then he start to realise that this new girl does not seem to be what she appears to be. She's evasive.. she doesnt reply sms or calls on weekends.. she claims she's busy. So turns that she apparently wasn't that serious about him. And he regretted. But too bad for him - his gf is really hurt and adamant about not gg back to him (but girls are generally soft hearted creatures). Such guys are really losers - just because they realise the other girl is not the one, they go back to the old one. I mean, they should have known better right? The day they decided to leave their gf for someone else, they should be prepared for the risk that they may end up with nothing. And women should never forgive men for such an unforgiving thing they did - 好马不吃回头草。

Well, in reality the bad guy always wins. She forgave him.. Anyway, i'm happy for my friend. He described his gf as "home cooked food" - that outside food always taste better.. but it will never beat home cooked food that is always healthy, fresh and always there for you after a hard day's work.

I thought a lot about this. And it further re-affirmed my beliefs (which I am almost losing hold of)... that the silliest thing to do is to leave a relationship because of a third party. Not matter how much we think the third party is better.. There's a reason why we love our current bfs/why we are in our current rs, right? And the reason is still always there, a third party only makes u forget the reason. But I think it's perfectly alright to leave a rs when the feelings are not there... maybe because our partners' personalities have changed.. or lifestyle has changed.. or our values have changed.. or even when that person is not suitable.. of course there must not be a third party who made you change.

You must have also heard of many ppl saying that love cannot be measured by the length of time you've known the person, but rather love is a feeling at that point of time. So a budding love can be as strong as an 'old' love, assuming that the person complements you perfectly. For some time, I couldnt quite decide on this debate. But after much thought, I've decided that love, is indeed, measured by time. With time comes memories... the tough times tt a couple went thru.. the happy moments.. the transition and changes of a rs - from ns to uni, from uni to work.. from bus rides to owning a car.. from hawker centres to nice restaurants. all these are testaments of love, which a couple in a budding rs have not experienced. And this is sth that is hard to understand - unless you've been thru it.

And then I realise.. I will never have the heart to leave my bf. There's a reason why I love him for so long. Even if i try to deny that reason, or i try to forget it, the fact is that reason has been and always will be there.

The day my fish left me

16th May 2007 - 12.30am

The day and time my fish left me. I didnt get to take a one last look at my fish... I was staying over at Mabel's place.

I only discovered its death yesterday night when i came home from work. I have a habit of looking at my fishes the minute i step into the door. Yesterday, I saw that the tank was empty, but I thought it was because the fish was in another tank and my dad was helping me to change the water. A few hours later, I walked towards the fish tank, and wanted to put my fish back into its original tank. And it was then I realised that there weren't 4 fishes in the other tank. There were only 3. I couldnt believe it. I thought the fish is probably in a bucket or sth. I asked my mom. Halfway thru my sentence, I choked and started crying.

And then I just cry and cry until I fell asleep..

My dad said he buried the fish for me.

Dear fish,

Thanks for bringing me so much joy to my life the past 2+ years. Although there were times when you scare the hell out of me, you know you're still my dearest pet. The times I spent changing the water, buying medicine for you, i know i've complained, but never once did i regret having you. I'm sorry if I neglected you during your last days, I have been an irreponsible pet owner.

I will always remember & love u..

With love always
Your pet owner

Garfield again

Because i've changed my homepage to the personalised www.google.com/ig , i get to read garfield comic strip every day. This is quite funny:

13th May 2007

Mothers' Day. It's actually something like Valentines' Day. The purpose has become that to 'encourage' people to spend. But i think the cause is more worth it. Making your mother happy is more impt than any other thing.

So, I decided to bring my mom to soup rest. since my mom loves chinese food. But in the end, we decided on bak ku teh at rangoon road - Ng Ah Sio Bak Ku Teh. My mom has always wanted to try it. But sad to say, it was a disappointment. SHould have stick with Soup rest. The pork rib soup was too pepperish for our liking. Even me, a fan of bak ku teh, thinks it's so-so only. dun really understand why it is so famous. So, the next time i brg my parents out, it'll def. be soup rest!

After lunch we head down to orchard rd jus to walk ard, and also to watch my sis's samba grp perform. But my blur sis forgot to bring her phantom tixs out! (she was supposed to watch it at 8pm) So.. in the end, she had to go home to get it.. my family ended up watching samba w/o her performing. which became kinda stupid. But in the end, she managed to rush home n rush back to orchard again (thanks to her bf who drove her to town. to digress, he bought her a bouquet of roses for no reason. that's romance. it never happened to me. I'm not complaining ok.) So, we managed to watch her perform in the end.

It's really a funny feeling watching ur family perform? Like i feel so proud my sis is doing sth like that, and i also feel envious (NOT jealous) that she can do sth i cant? No negative feelings, it's just a weird sensation. When adeline performed some opera last sat, i felt so proud of her! As if I were her mom... The same goes for my younger sis, who performs on stage so often cos she's in chinese ochestra. And then the ppl ard me who were watching my sis perform went like "wow! she's so cool!" It didnt feel like the girl on stage was my younger rebellious sis who constantly needs to be taken care of. This girl was someone else, from another person's perspective.

Oh man , such a simple thing like basking at orchard road can set me thinking abt such weird and irrelevant stuffs.

I sat down at one of those stone benches in orchard w my parents n younger sis. And then we started talking abt my younger sis.. my mom's pregnancy.. her birth.. the emotional stress she went thru, and the blame my mom put on herself. As she was talking abt it, i could see my mom's tears welling up in her eyes.. the guilt that she feels, and the invisible 'debt' that she feels she owe my sis - it came rushing back to her again. As I see my mom holding my sis's hands, somehow i just managed to feel all the pain she went thru. And suddenly, I felt like my mom's been thru so much. Yet many of those pain she went thru, she kept to herself. And i wish i could take some of her pain away.

What an irony. As children, we were supposed to make mothers' day a happy day for my mom, but in the end some unpleasant memories re-surfaced.

BUT. It was really an enjoyable mothers' day.

Mom, i know you wont read this. But I really think you're the bestest mom in the world. THank you for your unconditional love. Love you! =)

My Father

I came back home today, tired and all.

Holed up alone in my room, surfing the net and doing random stuffs. Basically, I just wanted to be alone.

THen my father came in with a bowl. "Argh I'm on a diet dont brg me food" flashed across my mind.

I felt midly irritated that my father tries to be nice and bring me food tea and all to eat. (Strangely, I dont really like it when my father treats me too well)

In the bowl, were rambutans. "Shelled" and peeled. no seed. Just flesh. And a fork.

Somehow, he knew that I was too lazy to eat the rambutans. And i hate eating rambutans because the flesh sticks to the seed, and sometimes i will eat rammants of the seed skin.

I felt so touched and guilty. The rambutans tasted deliciously sweet.